Podbit · On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Jake Shane doesn't care if someone says he's bad at his job. Being told he's a bad person is a different wound entirely — and he links that sensitivity directly to OCD. It mirrors his deepest fear about himself.
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The conversation reaches its emotional core when Jake names the specific type of online criticism that genuinely destroys him: being called a bad person. [1] — Jake Shane "Jake Shane doesn't care if someone says he's bad at his job. Being told he's a bad person is a different wound entirely — and he links that…" 17:48 Not 'bad at your job' — he has no time for that — but the accusation of moral corruption. He connects this to OCD, noting that the same pattern that drives cleanliness obsessions and intrusive-thought spirals shows up in him as a persistent sense of being dirty and ethically defective. Jay responds with rare personal vulnerability: he too is devastated when someone who doesn't know him concludes he's bad at heart. The two agree on their shared antidote — the people who've seen you hungry, tired, and stressed are the only ones with an accurate picture of who you really are.
Jake Shane says online criticism calling him a bad person affects him far more than criticism of his work — a pattern he ties directly to OCD.
Jake Shane reminds himself he can't be a bad person because good people wouldn't stay his friends for nearly 10 years if something was truly wrong with him.
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