Podbit · The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett
Every new beginning requires quitting something else first. Yet society celebrates new starts and stigmatises quitting — an incoherent contradiction. Godin and Bartlett argue we should celebrate quitting the right things just as loudly as we celebrate launching new ones.
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The statistics Bartlett introduces hit hard in sequence: people who believe they control their happiness rate life satisfaction at 7.4 vs. 5.6 out of 10 for those who don't [1] — Steven Bartlett "Control boosts life satisfaction from 5.6 to 7.4: People who believe they control their own happiness rate life satisfaction at 7.4 out of …" 1:21:37 ; people with low happiness are five times more likely to feel powerless; elderly care home residents given plant care and small daily choices were 50% less likely to die over 18 months. Godin's painkiller contribution is equally striking: hospital patients given a button to self-administer pain medication consume equal or less medication and report lower pain levels. The physical pain doesn't change. The stress of helplessness amplifies it. This is the core of The Knot: we are often not trapped by our circumstances but by the story we tell ourselves about our circumstances. Godin is careful here — he doesn't deny injustice or suggest everyone has equal agency. But he insists that for most people in the developed world, the feeling of helplessness is at least partly a narrative that can be rewritten.
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