Podbit · The School of Greatness
Kessler imagines arriving in the afterlife and meeting his son, who asks: 'Wasn't Earth incredible? Did you eat the food? Did you travel?' The implication is devastating: his son would not want him to have stopped living. Grief is real. But so is the decision to live again.
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Lewis gives Kessler space to describe his resource ecosystem in detail. AboutGrief.com is a free introductory video resource explaining what grief is. Grief.com is the main hub, hosting the Tender Hearts online grief groups — 26 of them, organized by type of loss: losing a sibling, a child, a parent, through suicide, through violence, anticipatory grief for people whose loved ones are sick, even a faith group and an afterlife group [1] — David Kessler "26 online grief groups at grief.com: Kessler's Tender Hearts program at grief.com offers 26 specialized online grief groups covering differ…" 1:12:14 . Groups are available four times a week, in time zones spanning Australia to Europe, and no one is turned away for lack of funds. Kessler also describes the grief educator certificate program, which draws psychiatrists, therapists, coaches, and laypeople who want to turn their own pain into purpose. He reflects on the evolution of online grief groups: initially skeptical that emotions could translate through a screen, he was quickly converted — and notes that online delivery solved a longstanding problem. In-person, a local group might only offer widows while you need a sibling group. Online, the specificity is unlimited.
Geography and stigma used to gatekeep grief support. Kessler's Tender Hearts program at grief.com now runs 26 specialized online groups — from suicide loss to anticipatory grief to faith-based groups — in multiple time zones, with no cost barrier.
Kessler's Tender Hearts program at grief.com offers 26 specialized online grief groups covering different types of loss, with no one turned away for lack of funds.
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Kessler thought his grief expertise would protect him. It didn't. When his son David died unexpectedly, he found himself on the floor — and eventually realized that acceptance alone wasn't enough. That unmet need became the sixth stage: finding meaning.
Grief isn't just death — it's any unwanted change. Kessler lectured at Coca-Cola and General Mills not because they had lots of funerals, but because change management is grief management. People who grieve well live well.
Witnessing someone's grief isn't just emotional support — it's an essential act of healing. Kessler argues grief is a severance and connection heals it. But real witnessing has two steps: seeing the pain AND affirming the person's capacity to recover.
Avoiding grief isn't free — it's exhausting. Kessler's beach ball metaphor nails it: pushing a small balloon down is easy, but holding a massive beach ball underwater takes constant, draining energy. Unattended feelings don't disappear; they just consume you.
Most people try to control their environment to avoid triggers. Kessler flips this entirely: triggers aren't problems to manage around — they're a detailed map to your pain and your healing. Every trigger points directly to what needs attention.
Running from pain doesn't leave it behind — it accelerates the chase. Whatever we run from pursues us, and whatever we face transforms us. Both Kessler and Lewis Howes testify to knowing both roads firsthand.
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