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When Ben was flown back to Milwaukee on June 6th last year, doctors had to fully paralyse him for transport. On arrival, they put him on ECMO — a machine that only about 40% of patients come off alive. Ben made it. Most don't.
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Ben Askren was at the Bitcoin conference in Las Vegas when his back began hurting. He went to the hospital on May 27th, was told it was a back spasm, collected his prescription, and returned to the hotel irritated. When the medicine failed — something that had never happened with previous back spasms — his wife began videotaping him sleeping and sent it to doctor friends, who immediately told her to get him back to hospital. Ben protested; his wife won. He walked into the emergency room waiting area and that is the last thing he remembers. What he did not know: a staph infection that had cleared from his elbow weeks earlier had entered his bloodstream and triggered necrotising pneumonia — a condition in which his body was literally eating his lungs from the inside out. By the time doctors understood what they were dealing with, the only way to keep him alive was a double lung transplant. He was unconscious for approximately 37 days and in hospital for about 73 in total. When he finally came to, in the dark, alone, unable to speak, a nurse told him he had had a double lung transplant. He had absolutely no idea how that could have happened. [1] — Ben Askren "Ben Askren walked into a hospital thinking he had a back spasm and woke up 37 days later with someone else's lungs. A staph infection on hi…" 01:42
Patients placed on ECMO (extracorporeal membrane oxygenation) have only about a 40% chance of surviving to come off the machine.
Ben Askren walked into a hospital thinking he had a back spasm and woke up 37 days later with someone else's lungs. A staph infection on his elbow had entered his bloodstream, triggered necrotising pneumonia, and caused his body to eat his lungs from the inside out.
Ben Askren was unconscious for approximately 37 days after being admitted to hospital with what he thought was a back spasm.
Ben Askren woke up in the dark, alone, unable to speak, having no idea why he was in a hospital. A nurse told him he'd had a double lung transplant. His wife arrived in the morning with a day-by-day journal of everything that had happened while he was unconscious.
AI nailed Andrew Huberman's vertigo-vs-low-blood-pressure diagnosis because that pattern has been reported millions of times. But every patient's liver is different and data on liver surgeries is scarce worldwide — making solo robot surgery dangerous. The rule is simple: data abundance means AI can help; data scarcity means keep the human in the loop.
Fei-Fei Li's father had liver surgery performed by a da Vinci robot guided by a surgeon. The result: 10 times less blood loss than a typical procedure. This isn't replacement — it's the gold standard of human-machine collaboration, where the human's judgment and the robot's precision combine.
US drug overdose deaths fell from 110,000 to roughly 70,000 — the biggest CDC-recorded single-year drop ever. Men's rates fell 27% in one year, and the steepest decline of all was among 15–24-year-olds, down 37%. The crisis narrative around young men needs to make room for signs of genuine progress.
Kessler thought his grief expertise would protect him. It didn't. When his son David died unexpectedly, he found himself on the floor — and eventually realized that acceptance alone wasn't enough. That unmet need became the sixth stage: finding meaning.
Grief isn't just death — it's any unwanted change. Kessler lectured at Coca-Cola and General Mills not because they had lots of funerals, but because change management is grief management. People who grieve well live well.
Witnessing someone's grief isn't just emotional support — it's an essential act of healing. Kessler argues grief is a severance and connection heals it. But real witnessing has two steps: seeing the pain AND affirming the person's capacity to recover.
Avoiding grief isn't free — it's exhausting. Kessler's beach ball metaphor nails it: pushing a small balloon down is easy, but holding a massive beach ball underwater takes constant, draining energy. Unattended feelings don't disappear; they just consume you.
Most people try to control their environment to avoid triggers. Kessler flips this entirely: triggers aren't problems to manage around — they're a detailed map to your pain and your healing. Every trigger points directly to what needs attention.
Running from pain doesn't leave it behind — it accelerates the chase. Whatever we run from pursues us, and whatever we face transforms us. Both Kessler and Lewis Howes testify to knowing both roads firsthand.
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