Podbit · Modern Wisdom
Shame is not a moral compass — it just ruins your life. Every single person is walking around concealing shame and believing they're the only one. The tragic irony is that humans share far more in common in what they hide than in what they show. Shame has been deliberately institutionalised to keep people compliant and isolated.
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