Podbit · The School of Greatness
Spiritual injury can be healed. Dr. Miller describes three pathways: meeting a trustworthy new torchbearer, inviting God's presence into the memory of the injury itself (post-traumatic spiritual growth), and establishing a direct personal connection to God — as she's done with homeless children sleeping under the Brooklyn Bridge.
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Lewis poses one of the most practically important questions of the conversation: what happens to a child raised with prayer and church who then watches a parent, pastor, or coach commit a serious spiritual betrayal? Dr. Miller's answer introduces the concept of spiritual injury — a form of damage distinct from ordinary hurt, because the child doesn't just reject the hypocrite; they reject God entirely. [1] — Dr. Lisa Miller "When a spiritual torchbearer — parent, pastor, coach — doesn't walk the walk, children don't just lose faith in that person. They lose fait…" 41:05 The flame the torchbearer carries belongs to the divine, not the carrier, but a child cannot yet make that distinction. Spiritual injury leaves children in, as Dr. Miller describes it, a chilly, cold, damp existential emptiness. The episode's redemptive turn comes in three healing pathways: meeting a trustworthy new torchbearer who genuinely walks the walk; post-traumatic spiritual growth, in which God's presence is invited into the very memory of the injury; and establishing a direct personal connection to God, unmediated by any human intermediary. Dr. Miller then delivers a quietly devastating testimony: she has conducted the council table practice with homeless children sleeping under the Brooklyn Bridge — every single one was able to find someone at their table, and every one was able to see God. No one had an empty table.
When a spiritual torchbearer — parent, pastor, coach — doesn't walk the walk, children don't just lose faith in that person. They lose faith in God entirely. Dr. Miller calls this 'spiritual injury,' and it's one of the most excruciating forms of pain a child can experience. The good news: it can be healed.
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