Podbit · The Ramsey Show
Medicaid nursing homes are welfare — and like all welfare-funded services, the experience differs meaningfully from private pay. Dave's advice: use the house proceeds to buy private care for your mother rather than qualifying for Medicaid. She has $250,000. Use it.
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Karen from Orlando presents a dilemma familiar to millions of American families: her mother's only asset is a $250,000 home, she needs full-time nursing home care, and she has told Karen to 'let the system take it' via Medicaid so the family can keep the house. Dave's response is frank and direct: Medicaid nursing home care is welfare-funded care, and the experience differs meaningfully from private-pay facilities. He urges Karen to sell the home, use the proceeds for quality private care, and face the math honestly: at $70,000 per year, $250,000 covers roughly 3.5 years, which covers the likely exposure given the 2.5-year average nursing home stay. Dave also challenges the deep cultural illusion that nursing home care should appear magically — paying for care is no different from paying any other service provider. Dr. Delony observes a growing wave of callers in their 70s and 80s who face this reckoning unprepared, and uses it as a live advertisement for investing in retirement savings at 22.
The average nursing home stay once someone enters full care is 2.5 years, costing roughly $100,000 per year, meaning the typical exposure is $200,000–$300,000.
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