Podbit · The Shawn Ryan Show
Trauma is not caused by what happened — it is caused by the gap between what happened and what you desired. Change the object of desire, or recognise that desire itself is a limitless phenomenon misdirected at finite objects, and the grip of trauma begins to loosen. Fix the chemistry, and there is no such thing as trauma.
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Sadhguru broadens the application from veterans to prisons. In southern Indian prisons, the program has been mandatory for over 25 years; the entire atmosphere changed. He personally taught programs in Pennsylvania and Philadelphia. His most powerful story: a man who received a life sentence at 18 for killing in a robbery, now 56, had become so violent that prison guards kept rifles on him during sessions. On day four or five, he broke down and wept in front of all the other prisoners — the greatest miracle for him was that he had been able to sit in one place for three hours, something he had not managed in 30 years. The Indian prison psychologist Taylor told Sadhguru that in 136 years, not a single day had passed without someone being sent to solitary. After the program, solitary placement stopped for months. Prisoners who howled through the night began sleeping. A man on death row wrote that when his cell door closed, it had become his Bodhi tree — the place where he meditates, not his grave. [1] — Sadhguru "For 136 consecutive years, at least one prisoner was sent to solitary confinement every single day in one Indian prison. After Sadhguru's I…" 3:15:00
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