Tina and her husband paid off all their debt — including the house — this March. Three weeks later she discovered he had secretly borrowed close to $100,000 from his 401(k) and spent it on other women and pornography over 7 years. George and Jade cover the full recovery roadmap: pull credit reports from all 3 bureaus, freeze credit, demand full financial transparency, give him a dumb phone if needed, and establish milestone-based trust rebuilding with a counselor.