Podbit · We Need To Talk with Paul C. Brunson
Behind every glamorous shoot, models learn to numb their pain and perform joy on demand. Missé describes arriving to set after the worst morning of her life and simply switching on — a skill that costs you something deep inside.
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Paul references a conversation with Miranda Kerr in which she described modelling as gruelling rather than glamorous, and Missé confirms the parallel immediately. The real psychological cost, she explains, is the dissociation — the ability, cultivated over time, to shut down how you feel and perform a professional persona regardless of what is happening in your private life. [1] — Missé Beqiri "Behind every glamorous shoot, models learn to numb their pain and perform joy on demand. Missé describes arriving to set after the worst mo…" 23:50 Models arrived at apartments, 10 girls to a building, and quickly entered social worlds run by promoters who valued them as decoration at VIP tables — something the girls, arriving from ordinary backgrounds, didn't always immediately understand. Stories of photographers and bookers crossing professional lines circulated constantly. Missé says she was never directly in an unsafe situation but was close enough to feel its proximity. Her career high point came when she shot a billboard for the Danish brand Birgersen and realised for the first time that she had actually made it — and later, shooting for Agent Provocateur, which she describes as a reclaiming of power and feminine identity.
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