Podbit · The Louis Theroux Podcast
A sober mentor made Cara a wild offer: stay clean for a year, and he'd buy her a kilo of cocaine to see if she still wanted it. The point wasn't provocation — it was certainty. He knew that anyone who reached that milestone would never go back. Cara says it was true for her. That offer, and the year that followed, changed everything.
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Even knowing she needed to get sober, Cara couldn't sustain it: the more sober she became, the more clearly she could see the damage she'd done, and that clarity was its own unbearable pain. She relapsed and overdosed — she suspects opiates had been cut into the cocaine she'd bought. Her girlfriend called an ambulance; paramedics administered Narcan at her home. Cara woke up being held down by strangers, confused and going straight into withdrawal, the first coherent thought being a wish to die. Not because she wanted to end her life, but because coming back into consciousness meant facing the pain in the faces of the people she loved most, and knowing what she'd just put them through. That shame, she says, is one of the most painful experiences of her life. [1] — Cara Delevingne "Cara overdosed — likely on fentanyl-laced cocaine — and was revived with Narcan by paramedics at her home. Waking up restrained, surrounded…" 46:56
A sober mentor told Cara he would buy her a kilo of cocaine after one year of sobriety, confident she would no longer want it — a bet she says proved correct.
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