Podbit · Jon Mallia Podcast
Pre-show nerves are not a problem for Jacqui — they are the point. She reframes anxiety before a performance as simply a different flavour of excitement, arguing that nervous energy and enthusiastic energy feel identical and should be treated the same way.
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The final chapter brings the conversation full circle — from Jacqui's own childhood and the family that shaped her, to the family she is now building with Sam and thinking about for the future. She speaks about the excitement of parenthood with a mixture of genuine anticipation and characteristic pragmatism, noting she is 'still trying to understand' what that chapter will look like [1] — Jacqui Losco "Or a slap in the face." 1:36:17 . The conversation also returns to pre-performance anxiety, which Jacqui reframes beautifully as excitement — a mindset shift that she applies to all high-stakes moments in life, whether a live TV show or a new life chapter. The episode ends on a comedic high note: Jon suggests that most online trolls just need a hug, and Jacqui — with perfect comic timing — suggests a slap might be more appropriate. Jon signs off with warmth, thanking Jacqui and the sponsors, and directing listeners to the Il-KAŻIN YouTube channel and Patreon.
Jacqui reframes pre-performance nerves as excitement, saying anxiety before a show is just another symptom of being excited.
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