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The New Science Of Female Attraction - Psychology Roundtable - #1133
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Why Marriage Kills Women's Sex Drive
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All four participants admit genuine uncertainty about one of the most puzzling sex differences in relationship psychology. Women's sexual desire declines precipitously within the first year of a relationship — dropping roughly by half — and continues falling even as men's stays relatively flat. Rob Henderson floats the obvious adaptive story: women at peak fertility have the strongest desire. Macken Murphy complicates it: if they remarry, desire goes back up, suggesting it's not simply fertility decline but relationship-specific. Murphy's proposed mechanism: early high desire is a mate-retention strategy ('get them on the hook'), which then transitions into a bargaining resource once commitment is secured. Rob Henderson cites Roy Baumeister's research showing men report wanting about twice as much sex as they're getting in relationships, while women report having roughly the amount they want — suggesting couples converge on the woman's preferred frequency.
Women's sexual desire declines precipitously within the first year of a relationship, dropping by roughly half and continuing to fall — while men's desire remains largely stable.
