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the game of more
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Sam identifies the deepest problem under all of this: humans are mimetic creatures. We want what others want, pursue what our peer group pursues, and rarely stop to ask whether the desire is genuinely ours. René Girard named this and Peter Thiel popularised it, but Sam frames it as a practical diagnostic: look at the people you most admire — do they pursue unpopular things? [1] — Sam Parr "Most of what you want, you want because someone else wants it. René Girard called this mimetic desire. The rarest people — Buffett, Palmer …" 45:00 Nick Gray lives surrounded by ambitious startup founders and has opted out entirely, prioritising cocktail parties, personal essays, and living like a villager in India. Tony Robbins' wife reportedly had a version of this realisation at a dinner table — whose burger is this? Why do I order pickles? Do I even like pickles? The metaphor applies everywhere. Palmer Luckey is the sharper case: building VR goggles at 19 in a trailer park, then pivoting to defence tech when that was anathema in Silicon Valley. Both projects were deeply unpopular with his peer group when he started them. That unpopularity, Sam argues, is actually the tell — the signal that someone is pursuing genuine internal desire rather than mimetic drift.
Scientific studies show that after one year, lottery winners default back to the same level of happiness they had before winning.
Everyone is playing the Game of More. The real question is: more of what? Status? Impact? Joy? Authenticity? Most people, when they're honest, would be embarrassed by the answer their daily actions reveal. A viral post about Facebook IPO employees named this trap and refused to say one path is better.
Most of what you want, you want because someone else wants it. René Girard called this mimetic desire. The rarest people — Buffett, Palmer Luckey, Nick Gray — want things from genuine internal volition. You can spot them easily: the things they pursue are deeply unpopular with their peer group.
Palmer Luckey was building virtual reality goggles at age 19 while living in a trailer park — a deeply unpopular project that exemplifies anti-mimetic behaviour.
