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In David Puts' study, how formidable men appeared to other men predicted their partner count over 18 months; women's attractiveness ratings of those same men had zero predictive power.
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Rob Henderson builds on Louise Perry's Spectator piece about OnlyFans as a supernormal stimulus for women (thousands of men praising you simultaneously), applying the same logic to female teacher scandals. When an attractive 25-year-old woman undresses before an experienced 28-year-old man, the response is pleasant but muted. When she does so before a 16-year-old encountering a mature woman for the first time, the intensity of his reaction — that specific look — is something no adult male encounter can replicate. Henderson is careful to note male teachers still commit these transgressions far more frequently; female scandals go viral precisely because they're anomalous. Chris Williamson connects this to his own reading of Freida McFadden's thriller 'The Teacher', whose twist forces the reader to confront their asymmetric moral reactions to the same act committed by different genders.
Rob Henderson proposed that some female teachers who sleep with male students are motivated not primarily by sex, but by the uniquely intense sexual attention an adolescent boy — encountering a fully mature woman for the first time — provides. It's a supernormal stimulus that no adult male can replicate.
In David Puts' study, male formidability — rated by other men — predicted how many sexual partners a man had over the next 18 months. Women's attractiveness ratings of those same men had zero predictive power. Looksmaxers may have accidentally optimised for the right variable.
The widely cited ego-depletion model — the idea that willpower is a finite resource that gets depleted — failed to replicate in follow-up studies.
Humans are estimated to have 5,000–7,000 thoughts per day, yet can recall essentially none of them afterward, highlighting why in-the-moment emotional tracking matters.
A large Harvard study found that a wandering mind is an unhappy mind — people report greater happiness when their attention is tethered to the present, even if the task is unpleasant.
A key study finding that we have a 'credit card's worth of plastic' in our bodies was likely skewed because researchers used nitrile gloves that shed plastic particles onto the microplastic detector.
Emotionally sensitive people have a hyperactive amygdala, an underactive prefrontal cortex, and a frayed connection between the two — making emotional regulation structurally harder.
Rejection sensitivity can be observed as early as age 2 or 3, suggesting it has strong developmental and likely genetic roots.
A Yale study found that non-judgmental observation of emotions — without rushing to resolve them — reduces activation in the brain, making it a powerful regulation tool.
Dan Gilbert's research found that the psychological immune system — the brain's ability to justify and find satisfaction in choices — activates most powerfully when a decision is perceived as irreversible.
Barry Schwartz's research found that maximizers — people who try to optimize every decision — tend to achieve objectively better outcomes but report lower happiness than satisficers who choose 'good enough.'
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