Snapshot · Modern Wisdom
When asked whether a woman cheating is morally wrong, young women were far less likely to take a hardline stance than older women or men, suggesting a shared-fate or experiential factor is shaping the judgment.
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Cox identifies dating as the tip of the spear of male-female alienation because it concentrates every dysfunction — mistrust, unclear norms, disembodied evaluation, performativity — in a single high-stakes encounter. He notes that fewer people have a script for how dating is supposed to unfold, and that online platforms reduce partner evaluation to the most superficial cues: hiking photos, a good dog, restaurant choices. You cannot observe how someone treats a waiter, handles a crying child, or navigates unexpected stress — the revealing small character tests that in-person serendipitous meetings naturally provide. Cox's split-sample survey data shows a sharp divergence: people who met online almost universally refuse to give a bad first date a second chance, while those introduced through mutual friends extend far more benefit of the doubt. Men are more likely than women to give second chances generally, consistent with selectivity research. The deeper point is that dating embedded in a social network carries natural accountability — multiple people are invested in the outcome, which provides stabilising ballast. Cox advocates for marriage as a community enterprise, not just a private contract, so that social investment in the relationship's success begins from the start. [1] — Daniel Cox "Online dating optimises for your existing preferences rather than expanding your horizons. People who meet online give bad first dates almo…" 45:48
Survey data shows that men with more close friends are significantly more likely to have recently gone on a date or be in a committed relationship, highlighting the link between social integration and romantic success.
A split-sample survey found that men judge male and female cheating identically harshly, and women judge male cheating the same way men do. The outlier: young women are dramatically less likely to call female infidelity morally wrong, suggesting shared-fate thinking and personal experience of being cheated on are reshaping the moral calculus.
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In focus groups across Philadelphia and Raleigh, every hand went up when asked if parents discussed financial stability and education, but no hands went up for marriage or parenthood.
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Young liberal women report experiencing sexual harassment online more frequently than conservative or moderate women, partly due to higher political posting activity drawing hostile responses.
Among Gen Z, a majority of women identify as feminist while only about 40% of men do — a 15-point gap that barely existed among Boomers, Gen X, or Millennials.
A study conducted before and after the pandemic found that the share of Americans with a regular third space — a community gathering spot outside home and work — fell roughly 20 percentage points and has not recovered.
Survey data shows a massive generational divide: most over-50s believe their parents viewed them as average, while a majority under-50 say their parents viewed them as special.
Survey data shows that men with more close friends are significantly more likely to have recently gone on a date or be in a committed relationship, highlighting the link between social integration and romantic success.
When gambling is legalized in a state, bankruptcies go up 30%, illustrating the societal costs Scott Galloway associates with the online gaming industry.
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