The Mel Robbins Podcast

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#1 Brain Surgeon: What Your Dreams Are Trying to Tell You About Yourself

Explore episode Jun 29, 2026

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Dreaming About Loved Ones Who Have Died and Erotic Dreams

At 50:50 · chapter starts 49:00

The conversation turns personal when Mel asks about dreaming of loved ones who have died. Dr. Jandial shares that his father's unexpected death seven years ago populated his dreams with a pit-in-the-stomach dread that eventually shifted, as his grief evolved, toward more welcome visitations. The dreaming brain, he suggests, mirrors the waking mind's coping — suppressed grief surfaces at night when the executive brain finally lets go of its daytime composure. Mel's observation that the CEO of the brain 'has to keep things under wraps' during the day resonates as a clean synthesis. The topic then pivots to erotic dreams: over 90% of people across cultures report them; approximately 80% involve infidelity; and they arrive before puberty, before sexual experience. Dr. Jandial's conclusion is calm and reassuring: if you're in a healthy relationship and you dream of infidelity, it means nothing — it's simply part of the brain's design.

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