Snapshot · Huberman Lab
In brief face-to-face encounters, two people agree on whether someone is attractive only about two-thirds of the time — far from the universal consensus that dating app rankings imply.
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Using pop-culture models from '80s and '90s films as a frame, Huberman notes the contrast between those romantic templates and the modern app reality — where everyone appears to compete for the same tiny pool of highly-swiped users. Eastwick confirms this with data: dating apps are 'one of the most unequal markets in the world,' a near-kleptocracy where the top users collect nearly all the attention. [1] — Paul Eastwick "It's one of the most unequal markets in the world. I mean, it's basically a kleptocracy." 18:30 But real-world acquaintanceship looks nothing like this — two people making a binary attractiveness judgment agree only about two-thirds of the time, already creating meaningful diversity in who pursues whom. More importantly, Eastwick argues that apps turn dating into an interview focused on traits, while real attraction comes from accumulating 'little stories and moments.' The apps fail because they can't replicate the experience of watching someone be unexpectedly funny, or having a conversation that felt different from all the others.
Dating apps are described as one of the most unequal markets in the world — a near-kleptocracy where the top few users receive the overwhelming majority of right swipes and messages.
When you look at who gets the right swipes and messages on dating apps, it's a tiny fraction of users collecting almost everything. Paul Eastwick calls it a kleptocracy — and says real-world acquaintanceship looks nothing like this lopsided market.
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