Podbit · Matt and Shane's Secret Podcast
There are things you did as a kid you just stopped doing because you grew up. Porn belongs in that category. It's not a moral indictment — it's a simple observation that watching strangers have sex for stimulation is a child's response to the world.
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At 11:27 · chapter starts 8:50
Both Matt and Joe grew up Catholic, and the conversation turns to the guilt architecture that surrounds porn in that tradition. Matt's recollection — jerking off on Easter and being convinced he was damned — is played for laughs, but the point underneath is real: the good-bad binary is a terrible tool for behavior change. Joe notes that the religious opposition to porn often gets dismissed by critics as 'excess Catholic guilt,' but he points out the irony that politically liberal people, often the loudest in defending porn, carry enormous guilt about other things. The more productive reframe, both men agree, is developmental: porn is a child's response to the world. [1] — Joe Alto "There are things you did as a kid you just stopped doing because you grew up. Porn belongs in that category. It's not a moral indictment — …" 11:27 You start because you're 12 and you can't see a naked woman any other way. At some point you stop because you're not 12 anymore. Matt lands on a phrase that crystallizes it: 'Porn is for babies.' Not because you're evil for having watched it, but because it's a juvenile way to relate to your own desires.
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