Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

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578 - Getting Back Together with an Ex: Great Idea or Terrible Idea?

Explore episode May 12, 2026

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The Statistics: How Common Is Reconciliation Really?

At 12:40 · chapter starts 7:20

Emily takes the hosts through the numbers, beginning with a 2014 study on relationship churning in emerging adulthood that found nearly half of young adults reported a breakup followed by a reunion, with over half of those also continuing a sexual relationship with the ex. The Good Men Project survey of 4,534 people aged 18–55 found 32% of exes attempted reconciliation — a figure that surprises Jace ('That's a third — that's wild!') — but only 18% of those stayed together longer than a year. The ExBackPermanently website survey adds a third perspective: 15% stay together, 14% break up again, making it essentially a coin toss, though the hosts note the obvious self-selection bias of that particular sample. The conversation turns to what this really means: the real question isn't whether you can get back together, but whether anything has actually changed.

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