SOLVED with Mark Manson

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Comparing Yourself to Others, Solved

Explore episode Nov 15, 2025
Technology
The For You Feed, Vibe-cession, and the Distortion of Reality

Comparing Yourself to Others, Solved · Nov 15, 2025 Technology

The For You feed hasn't solved social comparison — it's just personalised the distortion. Instead of comparing yourself to random global strangers, you now compare yourself to the top 1% of people doing exactly what you care about. Worse, if you're struggling economically, the algorithm will keep feeding you content from other people who are struggling, making you think the whole world is in recession when the data says otherwise. You get a custom-built lie about reality.

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Is Social Media Getting Better? The For You Feed Debate

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Mark pushes back against what he sees as the research lag in books like Haidt's Anxious Generation: social media in 2025 is a fundamentally different product from the one studied in 2020, and the For You feed is the key discontinuity. Rather than comparing yourself to everyone on Earth, you're now served a narrow band of content from people doing exactly what you care about — which is both better (more inspiration, more niche community) and worse (more directly threatening comparisons in the domains you actually value). He gives the personal example of repeatedly being served teenage guitar prodigies on his feed. He then extends the critique: the For You feed creates individualised reality distortions. He links this to the 'vibe-cession' of 2022–23, where consumer confidence surveys showed people believed the economy was in recession while macroeconomic data showed the opposite. His explanation: if you were struggling economically, the algorithm kept feeding you content from others who were also struggling, generating a false perception that the whole economy was collapsing. The same mechanism operates across political and social topics, creating populations that disagree not just on values but on facts.

Society & Culture
The Two Spirals: Social Life vs. Dopamine Madness

Comparing Yourself to Others, Solved · Nov 15, 2025 Society & Culture

The future of social comparison and mental health will split along one fault line: people with the impulse control and social confidence to keep building real-world relationships, and people who succumb to the dopamine loop of digital scrolling. Both are self-reinforcing spirals. One builds confidence and connection. The other amplifies anxiety, distraction, and social risk-aversion.

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