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The Career Trap That Makes Women Miserable - Suzanne Venker - #1113

Explore episode Jun 20, 2026
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The Alpha Female at Home: Disaster Waiting to Happen

The Career Trap That Makes Women Miserable - Suzanne Venker… · Jun 20, 2026 Society & Culture

The skills that make women successful in the workplace — disagreeability, assertiveness, always having the counterargument — are the exact opposite of what makes relationships thrive. Venker wrote a whole book about this from personal experience: when you're a natural arguer, that's great for a career and terrible for a marriage. The girlboss mindset does not transfer home.

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Why Alignment Matters So Much

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