Podbit · Modern Wisdom
Things have gotten so bad in modern dating that Venker now advises women to surface values and life goals within the first three dates. The fear of seeming 'too much' keeps people in years-long relationships with fundamentally incompatible partners. Signalling what you want early doesn't scare off the right person — it filters out the wrong ones.
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Venker stakes out what may be her most provocative claim: the decision about who to marry, and how well that marriage sustains itself, will have a greater impact on a woman's happiness and wellbeing than any career choice she ever makes [1] — Suzanne Venker "Is status your goal or is meaning and your relationships and family your goal? And those, I hate to say it, are just — they're competing. T…" 24:50 . Yet women receive almost no serious education about this — not from schools, not from media, not even from parents who've been conditioned to avoid the topic. The fertility crisis is another taboo: telling women they have a biological clock is socially forbidden, even though it cannot be changed and working with it rather than against it would save enormous suffering. Venker does not advocate rushing into marriage; she advocates earlier, more serious education about it. She draws a sharp contrast with career decisions: careers can be changed, interests can shift, industries can be pivoted from. But a spouse — especially one with whom you've had children — is a lifelong bond. Second marriages are more fragile than first; third more than second. Remarriage, she says, is not a real solution for most people.
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