Podbit · The Prof G Pod with Scott Galloway
David Ricks stumbled into the pharmaceutical industry because his future wife was in med school in Indianapolis — so he needed a local job. He later moved his family to China to run Lilly China. His advice: stop overprogramming your career path and say yes to opportunities that scare you a little.
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Galloway pivots to the human dimension — asking what Ricks would tell his 25-year-old self. The answer is characteristically direct: say yes to the things that scare you. Ricks stumbled into pharma because his future wife was in medical school in Indianapolis — he just needed a nearby job. He later moved his family to China to run Lilly's operations there, with his physician wife giving up her career to do so. He doesn't romanticize the sacrifice, but he says those decisions shaped everything. His second piece of advice cuts against the grain of modern career culture: stay somewhere long enough to actually understand it. Genuine mastery of a complex industry takes 15 years, he argues — job-hopping optimizes for salary but not knowledge. On raising sons, Ricks is both self-critical and wise: he was too demanding, too impatient with a developmental process that, for men, doesn't fully complete until the mid-20s. The most resonant observation: men connect side by side, not face to face. Hiking, camping, walking — these create the conditions for real conversation with teenage boys better than organized sports spectatorship. The death of his father last year has made him more intentional. He's scheduled a trip to Europe with his oldest son this summer.
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