Podbit · On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Riz Ahmed sat in the Oscars ceremony holding his Academy Award — and his inner critic was at an all-time high. The voice wasn't celebrating. It was saying: don't get complacent, you're not good enough. He'd been programmed to strive, not to savour.
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The conversation turns to time. Riz Ahmed cites what he says is a proven fact of neuroscience: the brain subjectively experiences 50% of a person's entire lifetime between the ages of 0 and 8. [1] — Riz Ahmed "Our brains subjectively experience 50% of our entire lifetime between ages 0 and 8. That's why a single day felt enormous as a child and wh…" 1:04:55 That's why a single childhood day can feel enormous and why adult years blur together. Jay responds with Steve Jobs' Stanford commencement speech, which he listened to every day for 9 months, and its invitation to check in daily with whether you are living as you would on your last. Jay then introduces George Bernard Shaw's line: 'We don't stop playing because we get old, we get old because we stop playing.' Riz reflects on parenthood as his greatest teacher in this regard — children humble you, they raise you, and they model the state of pure curiosity you are trying to return to. He's learning to pass the baton from the critic to the cheerleader — or, better yet, to the child.
Riz Ahmed says the moment he sat down holding his Academy Award, his inner critic was at an all-time high — programming him to strive, not to savour.
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