Podbit · The Prof G Pod with Scott Galloway
Galloway's son just graduated. The sadness isn't the milestone — it's the list of things they were supposed to do together: the car renovation, the Alaska trip, the Pokémon conference. He missed ages 0-8 chasing economic security, lost 14-18 to boarding school, and now faces a void of plans never executed. Book the trip. Don't plan it.
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The episode closes with Galloway's 'Algebra of Happiness' segment, which this week is unusually raw and personal. His son just graduated from boarding school outside London, and instead of pride he felt Saturday morning melancholy — a grief not for the milestone but for the list of things they were supposed to do together and never did: renovating an old car, an Alaska trip, a Pokémon convention. Galloway is honest about his own failures: he prioritised work and economic security when his son was young, travelling for weeks at a time when the boy was small, missing the 0–8 window, then losing 14–18 to boarding school. [1] — Scott Galloway "Galloway's son just graduated. The sadness isn't the milestone — it's the list of things they were supposed to do together: the car renovat…" 59:15 He recounts the first thought he had dropping his son at school: he wished his late mother were alive to see it. The insight he lands on is not a tidy lesson in presence or prioritisation but something more complicated — the scarcity economics of parenthood, where the version of your child you have today is already gone next year. The episode ends with a single, actionable plea: if you want to show your son the Imperial War Museum, buy the tickets today. Don't plan it. Go.
Galloway reflects on sending his son to boarding school at 14 and the compounding regret of years missed and plans never fulfilled.
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