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A UK birthmark support group described a mother who had explanation cards printed about her child's birthmark because she couldn't always handle strangers approaching to ask about her child's face. The real problem isn't the birthmark — it's everyone else.
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At 7:21 · chapter starts 6:10
With the personal anecdotes out of the way, Josh launches into what quickly becomes the episode's emotional center: the long history of ostracism tied to birthmarks. He traces the stigma from ancient witchcraft accusations through to present-day experiences, citing the UK birthmark support group's story of a mother who had explanation cards printed because she couldn't face yet another intrusive stranger asking about her child's face [1] — Josh Clark "A UK birthmark support group described a mother who had explanation cards printed about her child's birthmark because she couldn't always h…" 07:21 . The hosts are visibly frustrated — not at the birthmarks, but at the social machinery that makes them a problem. Josh's conclusion is blunt: the rest of the world are schmucks. Chuck seconds it.
A UK birthmark support group reported a mother who had cards printed explaining her child's birthmark because she couldn't always face strangers' intrusive questions.
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