Podbit · Candace
Emily Ratajkowski's essay in The Cut describes intentionally embracing promiscuity as post-divorce empowerment — dressing provocatively for her 5-year-old's school pickup to 'punish men.' Candace argues this is clinical depression masquerading as feminism, and the most degrading piece of writing she's encountered in years.
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The tonal shift is deliberate: Candace moves from geopolitical conspiracy to pop culture, but the thematic line is continuous — both segments are about what happens when women are misdirected by powerful systems, whether trafficking networks or feminist ideology. The subject is Emily Ratajkowski's essay 'Mother Effer' published in The Cut, which Candace's team apparently could not excerpt much from because of how sexually explicit it is [1] — Candace Owens "Emily Ratajkowski's essay in The Cut describes intentionally embracing promiscuity as post-divorce empowerment — dressing provocatively for…" 33:05 . Ratajkowski, known for nude appearances in the Robin Thicke 'Blurred Lines' video and subsequent Victoria's Secret work, writes about her post-divorce period as a conscious self-reinvention through promiscuity — casting herself as a comic-book villain character (Poison Ivy, Catwoman) who drinks gin martinis and uses men. Candace reads key passages: Ratajkowski's declaration that she 'decided to F her way into a new kind of woman,' her self-congratulatory account of leaving men's beds to be home for her 5-year-old, and her description of dressing in shorts and lip liner for school pickup to provocatively 'navigate the cliquish politics of school drop-off.' Candace's verdict is emphatic: this is not empowerment but a public document of severe depression, possibly linked to postpartum disorder and a traumatic birth. She worries most about what the essay will mean to Ratajkowski's son when he is old enough to read it, and closes with a call for young women listening not to follow this path.
Emily Ratajkowski wrote about dressing provocatively for school pickup of her 5-year-old son in a graphic essay about her post-divorce promiscuity published in The Cut.
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