Podbit · The Ramsey Show
Withholding all household money and hiding financial information from a spouse isn't just bad behavior — it's financial abuse. John Delony draws a hard line for Maria and explains she is being held financially hostage, and that she's entitled to a significant share of her husband's assets.
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Maria calls from San Diego in a halting voice: she's 48, hasn't worked in 12 years, has no savings, and believes she's about to leave a marriage with nothing. John Delony immediately reframes the situation — a husband who gives her no money, routes all mail to his parents, and shares debt details but never income or spending — as financial abuse, not just a difficult marriage [1] — John Delony "Withholding all household money and hiding financial information from a spouse isn't just bad behavior — it's financial abuse. John Delony …" 01:40 . The financial picture that emerges is more hopeful than Maria realized: the couple's home was bought for $340,000 in 2017 and is now worth approximately $550,000, and her husband has worked at the same company for 30 years, likely accumulating significant retirement savings. Jade pushes Maria to think about work, noting that many people earn peak income in their 50s, and that 12 years of child-rearing carries transferable skills. John adds the deeper point: the greatest gift she can give her 12-year-old son is stability — and the boat, he says, is already rocked. The segment ends with a clear message: don't just walk away. Hire a licensed attorney, understand your full entitlement, and build a realistic plan around your new reality.
John Delony identifies Maria's situation — husband controls all money, routes mail to his parents, never shares income — as financial abuse, not just a marital disagreement.
Maria's husband earns $90,000 a year and secretly took out a $70,000 HELOC to pay off debt, information Maria only discovered from the loan application.
Maria's home was bought for $340,000 and is now worth approximately $550,000, giving the couple meaningful equity to divide in a potential divorce.
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