Four callers bring the theory to earth: a man on a 7-month drinking bender who caught a romance scam; a woman asking if her boyfriend can change; a man in a long-distance relationship cycling between infidelity and masturbation; and a 19-year-old who just lost the love of his life to his addiction. Steven's answer is consistent across all of them: use the pain as leverage, get into community, and whatever you do — do something.