Podbit · The Shawn Ryan Show
When CPS removes a child, they're handed a trash bag and given five minutes to grab their belongings. No explanation, no comfort, no dignity. For Jen Lilley, that trash bag is the perfect metaphor for how the system communicates a child's worth — you are trash. The organization Comfort Cases was founded specifically to change this.
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This chapter contains some of the episode's most visceral material. Jen Lilley describes 'stopgap' placement — what happens when a social worker determines a child must be removed but has nowhere to put them. Children sleep in social worker offices, in hotels, in shelters, or in 13 states, juvenile detention centers, despite having no criminal record. When placed there, they receive criminal records and are treated as prisoners. Lilley describes the trauma of removal: children given a trash bag and five minutes to gather their belongings, driven to strangers' homes with no explanation, not knowing if they're being punished. She introduces Comfort Cases, the nonprofit that replaces trash bags with dignity-preserving duffel bags. Most damaging of all, she reveals: 51% of Americans wrongly believe foster kids are in the system because they are bad kids. They are there because of someone else's choices.
In 13 U.S. states, children with no criminal record are being placed in juvenile detention centers because there are simply no foster homes available. They arrive in jumpsuits, get assigned records, and are treated as prisoners — not as kids who needed help.
In 13 U.S. states, children with no criminal record are being placed in juvenile detention centers simply because there are no available foster homes.
More than half of surveyed Americans wrongly believe that children in foster care are in the system because they are bad kids. The truth: they were removed because of someone else's choices. They never asked to be there. This myth is why 36,000 foster homes have been lost and why the shortage keeps getting worse.
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