Podbit · Parenting Hell with Rob Beckett and Josh Widdicombe
Josh has been sleeping on a mattress topper on a dirty carpet for months during his home renovation. His asthma has returned. Rob is baffled that he hasn't simply ordered a cheap mattress. Josh insists there isn't room.
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Josh's producer Michael has booked him a hotel room so he can record the podcast away from the noise of the renovation. The problem: he didn't arrive the night before, so the hotel marked him as a no-show and he has to awkwardly explain that he just wants to use the room for work 'this morning' — a turn of phrase that makes him sound, as both hosts acknowledge, like he has booked a room for an illicit mid-morning liaison. The accessible room they offer him has a lower bed (which he doesn't need) and is, at least, a functioning room. Rob walks Josh through the renovation phases with increasing confusion, eventually establishing that end-of-July will get Josh back the first two-thirds of the house — but not his bedroom.
Josh arrives at a hotel booked for him to record the podcast in, only to be told he's been marked as a no-show. He can't hide his disappointment on his face. Rob points out, correctly, that if you've rented the room, you're allowed to use it whenever you want before checkout.
Josh has been sleeping on a mattress topper on carpet for months during his home renovation, which he believes has triggered his asthma returning.
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