Podbit · Parenting Hell with Rob Beckett and Josh Widdicombe
Rob Beckett missed his children's Sports Day for the third consecutive year after planning 10 months in advance and building his entire filming schedule around it — only for the school to cancel because of the heatwave.
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The heatwave is the dominant backdrop for the whole episode, and the World Cup is its comic companion. Rob is blunt: stopping drinking fundamentally changed his relationship with tournament football, because what he actually enjoyed was using the matches as an excuse to get obliterated with friends. Now he sits alone with a protein yogurt watching England draw nil-nil. Josh is equally deflated — he watched the Ghana game solo while Lou went to bed early and notes that the next game kicks off at 10 PM, meaning inviting anyone around to watch would be genuinely bizarre. Both hosts converge on the same sad truth: this is fine, this is who they are now, and ten pints would definitely help. [1] — Rob Beckett "Rob watched England's 0-0 draw with Ghana alone, eating a protein yogurt while his wife went to bed early. He admits that what he used to l…" 07:01
Rob watched England's 0-0 draw with Ghana alone, eating a protein yogurt while his wife went to bed early. He admits that what he used to love about the World Cup was the excuse to get completely drunk with friends.
Rob missed his children's Sports Day for the third consecutive year — having planned 10 months in advance and built his filming schedule around the date — only for it to be cancelled due to heat.
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