Podbit · The Hidden Third
Nikki's grandmother was a therapist who merged her clients into a cult-like extended family in 1970s–80s New Jersey. Inside that group were pedophiles — and Nikki was their primary target from as young as age 3.
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Asked about her childhood, Nikki does not flinch. She grew up in Teaneck, New Jersey, in Bergen County — right outside New York City — inside a world created by her grandmother, a therapist who had merged her clients into a cult-like extended family. In the 1970s and '80s, this was barely nameable; today, Nikki calls it what it was: a cult. Within that group were people with serious mental health issues and, crucially, pedophiles. Nikki was a primary target. She's careful to note that not everyone in the group was harmful, but the harmful ones came down on her hard. Reconstructing the timeline was its own ordeal — she had to interview family members and work backward from shared memories to determine that the abuse began at approximately ages 3 or 4. She had dissociated and compartmentalized much of it, only recovering fuller memories as an adult. The detail she offers is precise and restrained, and the effect is devastating.
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