Podbit · We Need To Talk with Paul C. Brunson
Both Missé and Paul had been furious at the people they lost. Missé explains that the anger isn't resentment — it's love that has no outlet. When someone is gone, the love doesn't disappear, it just has nowhere to go.
Where this was said
At 1:32:40 · chapter starts 1:22:10
Missé was supposed to be in Ibiza for a magazine cover shoot, but a lost passport changed everything. Unable to fly back to England, she was sent by police to the Swedish embassy in Mallorca — meaning she spent the night on the same island as Jake without either of them knowing. She woke to 10 missed calls. Her first fear was that something had happened to River. When Jake's father said it was Jake, she heard the weight in his voice before the word arrived. What followed was total collapse: guilt, panic, grief for River, grief for Jake's family — especially his mother, father, and brother, whose loss she understood intimately from her own experience. [1] — Missé Beqiri "Missé Beqiri was stranded in Mallorca after losing her passport — not knowing that Jake Hall was also there and dying that very night. She …" 1:24:50 The days that followed brought the strange comfort of strangers' support and the strange pain of watching her daughter grieve a father she adored. She speaks about Jake's final Instagram post — 'Remember the good things' — with a tenderness that suggests she has thought about it every day since. [2] — Missé Beqiri "Hours before Jake Hall died, he posted 'Remember the good things' on Instagram. Missé believes he wanted to be remembered for his love, his…" 1:31:20 The funeral, just a week before this recording, was a celebration by intention: because that is what Jake would have wanted, and because Missé has learnt, from losing her brother, that burying grief only delays the pain. [3] — Missé Beqiri "Both Missé and Paul had been furious at the people they lost. Missé explains that the anger isn't resentment — it's love that has no outlet…" 1:32:40
Jake Hall was 35 years old when he died, with his whole life ahead of him according to Missé.
Missé Beqiri was stranded in Mallorca after losing her passport — not knowing that Jake Hall was also there and dying that very night. She only found out when she woke to 10 missed calls the next morning, and her first thought was that something had happened to her daughter River.
Missé says the love between Jake Hall and their daughter River was 'insanity' — a word she uses almost with awe. Whatever friction existed between her and Jake, it dissolved the moment he was with River. That bond is what makes the loss most devastating.
Missé was unknowingly in Mallorca — the same location as Jake — the night he died, having been stranded there after losing her passport.
Missé doesn't just grieve Jake Hall's death — she's haunted by the question of whether a single phone call could have changed everything. Knowing she was in the same city that night makes the silence unbearable.
Hours before he died, Jake Hall posted on Instagram: 'Remember the good things.'
Hours before Jake Hall died, he posted 'Remember the good things' on Instagram. Missé believes he wanted to be remembered for his love, his creativity, and how hard he fought the internal voice that tormented him.
AI nailed Andrew Huberman's vertigo-vs-low-blood-pressure diagnosis because that pattern has been reported millions of times. But every patient's liver is different and data on liver surgeries is scarce worldwide — making solo robot surgery dangerous. The rule is simple: data abundance means AI can help; data scarcity means keep the human in the loop.
Fei-Fei Li's father had liver surgery performed by a da Vinci robot guided by a surgeon. The result: 10 times less blood loss than a typical procedure. This isn't replacement — it's the gold standard of human-machine collaboration, where the human's judgment and the robot's precision combine.
US drug overdose deaths fell from 110,000 to roughly 70,000 — the biggest CDC-recorded single-year drop ever. Men's rates fell 27% in one year, and the steepest decline of all was among 15–24-year-olds, down 37%. The crisis narrative around young men needs to make room for signs of genuine progress.
Kessler thought his grief expertise would protect him. It didn't. When his son David died unexpectedly, he found himself on the floor — and eventually realized that acceptance alone wasn't enough. That unmet need became the sixth stage: finding meaning.
Grief isn't just death — it's any unwanted change. Kessler lectured at Coca-Cola and General Mills not because they had lots of funerals, but because change management is grief management. People who grieve well live well.
Witnessing someone's grief isn't just emotional support — it's an essential act of healing. Kessler argues grief is a severance and connection heals it. But real witnessing has two steps: seeing the pain AND affirming the person's capacity to recover.
Avoiding grief isn't free — it's exhausting. Kessler's beach ball metaphor nails it: pushing a small balloon down is easy, but holding a massive beach ball underwater takes constant, draining energy. Unattended feelings don't disappear; they just consume you.
Most people try to control their environment to avoid triggers. Kessler flips this entirely: triggers aren't problems to manage around — they're a detailed map to your pain and your healing. Every trigger points directly to what needs attention.
Running from pain doesn't leave it behind — it accelerates the chase. Whatever we run from pursues us, and whatever we face transforms us. Both Kessler and Lewis Howes testify to knowing both roads firsthand.
We use essential and analytics cookies to run Vuci. To understand how the site is used: Privacy Policy.
Install Vuci on your phone
Add it to your home screen for a faster, app-like experience.
Install Vuci on your phone
Tap the Share button, then “Add to Home Screen”.
A new version is available
Reload to get the latest Vuci.