Podbit · Empire: World History
When Sophia died in 1948 and asked in her will for her ashes to return to India, it was left to 80-year-old Bamba to fulfil the request. She chose to travel by sea and over land rather than fly — because, she explained, her sister had always been frightened of flying. Sophia was already dead.
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When Sophia died in August 1948, she had asked in her will for her ashes to be returned to India. The task fell to Bamba — aged 80, alone in Lahore, the last of the line. Rather than fly, she travelled by sea and over land, explaining with characteristic precision that her sister had always been frightened of flying. Sophia was already dead. The ashes were scattered somewhere secret in Lahore; the location is not known. Bamba then lived another eight years, mostly in Piyaji's company, sight failing, health failing, still calling herself the Queen of the Punjab and the last true sovereign of the Sikhs. [1] — Anita Arundhati "Not one of Maharaja Duleep Singh's five children — Sophia, Catherine, Victor, Freddie, or Bamba — produced a single heir. In her final year…" 40:00 In her twilight, she began circulating a darker story: that when the sisters were children at Elveden, nannies had been putting mystery powders in their food to make them sterile. Not one of Duleep Singh's five children — Sophia, Catherine, Victor, Freddie, or Bamba — had a single child. Anita's reading is that this was not paranoid conspiracy theory but an articulation of grief: the dynasty was over, it ended with her, and she needed to make sense of the enormity of that.
William noted that approximately 1.5 million people were killed in the violence surrounding the 1947 Partition of India, the upheaval in which Bamba was stranded in Lahore.
When Sophia Duleep Singh died in 1948, Bamba — then aged 80 — personally transported her sister's ashes to Lahore and scattered them at an unknown location.
After the ethnic cleansing of Partition, Princess Bamba became effectively the last Sikh resident of Lahore, kept safe by her Muslim companion Piyaji.
Not one of Maharaja Duleep Singh's five children — Sophia, Catherine, Victor, Freddie, or Bamba — produced a single heir. In her final years, Bamba claimed the British had poisoned them into sterility as children. Whether conspiracy theory or grief, the result was the same: a royal dynasty wiped off the map within a generation.
Not a single one of Maharaja Duleep Singh's five children — Sophia, Catherine, Victor, Freddie, or Bamba — produced any offspring, ending the dynasty entirely.
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