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Why Nobody Feels Loved Anymore - Sonja Lyubomirsky - #1115

Explore episode Jun 25, 2026
Science
Acting Extroverted for a Week — The Biggest Effect Sonja Ever Found

Why Nobody Feels Loved Anymore - Sonja Lyubomirsky - #1115 · Jun 25, 2026 Science

Sonja Lyubomirsky's lab asked both introverts and extroverts to act more extroverted for a week. It produced the largest happiness effects she ever measured — and the effect was identical for introverts, who supposedly find socializing draining. During the introversion week, happiness often stayed flat or dropped.

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The Habits That Make You Feel Loved

At 58:34 · chapter starts 55:24

Radical curiosity and genuine listening are identified as the top two habits. Sharing personal humanity across differences also reduces polarization. Change your next conversation, not your life.

Health & Fitness
Curiosity and Listening Are the Two Habits That Change Everything

Why Nobody Feels Loved Anymore - Sonja Lyubomirsky - #1115 · Jun 25, 2026 Health & Fitness

Of every mindset and habit discussed, Sonja Lyubomirsky singles out curiosity and listening as the most powerful. They improve employee engagement, reduce political polarization, and build the deep knowing that makes love feel real. They're not that hard to practice, and yet they're almost universally underdone.

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