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Why Nobody Feels Loved Anymore - Sonja Lyubomirsky - #1115
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The Habits That Make You Feel Loved
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Radical curiosity and genuine listening are identified as the top two habits. Sharing personal humanity across differences also reduces polarization. Change your next conversation, not your life. [1] — Sonja Lyubomirsky "Of every mindset and habit discussed, Sonja Lyubomirsky singles out curiosity and listening as the most powerful. They improve employee eng…" 55:24
Of every mindset and habit discussed, Sonja Lyubomirsky singles out curiosity and listening as the most powerful. They improve employee engagement, reduce political polarization, and build the deep knowing that makes love feel real. They're not that hard to practice, and yet they're almost universally underdone.
A study published roughly a year before the episode had people wearing opposing political hats share personal struggles; simply sharing humanity with politically different people measurably reduced prejudice and polarization.
Sonja Lyubomirsky's lab asked both introverts and extroverts to act more extroverted for a week. It produced the largest happiness effects she ever measured — and the effect was identical for introverts, who supposedly find socializing draining. During the introversion week, happiness often stayed flat or dropped.
