Podbit · The Mel Robbins Podcast
You don't have to spend the rest of your life as this version of yourself. You're not stuck in the job, the relationship, the apartment, or the mindset. The moment you decide to change what happens next, that's when your power returns.
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At 45:30 · chapter starts 40:10
Mel reaches for her own book, reading directly from page 297 of The Let Them Theory: you can have the life you've always wanted — the question is whether you will let yourself have it, because no one else can stop you. [1] — Mel Robbins "Nobody owes you anything but you: From Mel's book 'The Let Them Theory': you are solely responsible for your own happiness, energy, and cho…" 40:30 The accountability list that follows is both bracing and empowering: you are responsible for the energy you bring, the work you do on what matters, the truths you tell, the money you earn, and the definitions you set for your own life. Nobody owes you anything, but you owe yourself everything. She then introduces the flip side of the famous 'no one is coming to save you' mantra: no one is coming to stop you either. [2] — Mel Robbins "No one is stopping you either: Just as no one is coming to save you, no one is actually coming to stop you — the only person blocking your …" 41:40 Who exactly is stopping you from writing the book, breaking up, changing careers, posting the song? The answer, usually, is you — through your own fear of how you look, whether you'll fail, what others will think. And so she adds a corollary: don't kill the part of you that's cringy; kill the part of you that cringes at yourself. The chapter closes by connecting the takeaway to the very next practical step: one email, one walk, one honest conversation — proof that you are in charge.
From Mel's book 'The Let Them Theory': you are solely responsible for your own happiness, energy, and choices — no one else owes you anything.
Just as no one is coming to save you, no one is actually coming to stop you — the only person blocking your progress is yourself.
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