Podbit · The School of Greatness
McLaughlin quit pediatric neurosurgery and moved towns to escape guilt over a young patient's bad outcome. Sixteen years later he discovered Anthony was still alive, still part of his family, and his parents considered McLaughlin their hero. The story was never what he thought it was.
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Lewis pushes on how a surgeon eliminates the worry of undesirable outcomes. McLaughlin's framework is precise: you cannot control the thoughts that arise — the brain is a constant ticker-tape of thought generation — but you can be in charge of them. Thoughts generate feelings; feelings generate actions. When the anxious voice surfaces before an operation, McLaughlin responds: 'You are trained, you are enough. Don't think about the outcome. The outcome doesn't define you.' He illustrates the cost of outcome-based identity with an early career miracle: a pool-diving accident victim with no movement in his arms or legs walked out of the hospital just two weeks after spinal relocation surgery — a one-in-a-thousand recovery. The temptation to define himself by that triumph planted the seed for the next chapter's harder lesson. [1] — Dr. Mark McLaughlin "You can't control your thoughts. You can be in charge of them. So I'm in charge of my thoughts, and my thoughts generate my feelings, and m…" 01:07
A patient who broke his neck diving into a pool and had no movement in arms or legs walked out of the hospital just two weeks after McLaughlin relocated his dislocated spine.
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