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The New Science Of Female Attraction - Psychology Roundtable - #1133
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Why Do We Get the Ick?
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A moment of genuine excitement breaks out when Steve Stewart-Williams reveals his PhD student Louisa Lee is doing the first systematic empirical work on the ick — research that barely existed when she began, and has since been scooped once. The ick is framed not as a social quirk but as a product of evolved disgust: women, being choosier on average, have a stronger visceral selection mechanism that fires when a partner reveals social incompetence or health-relevant cues. Macken Murphy explains the asymmetric logic: men risk missing mating opportunities by being too choosy, while women risk catastrophic mating errors by not being choosy enough. Chris Williamson cites Diana Fleischman's self-reported attraction dips when her husband misses a driving turn or lands a joke badly — a modern analogue of an ancient calibration system.
Women experience the ick far more than men because the asymmetric reproductive risk makes discernment evolutionarily essential. New research frames the ick through the behavioural immune system and evolved disgust reactions. For men, missing a mating opportunity is the bigger risk; for women, it's mating with the wrong person.
