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Dating, Solved: Why Finding the Right Person Feels So Hard
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What Women Want — And What Men Want
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Mark walks through the major findings from David Buss's decades of cross-cultural research on what each sex finds attractive, and several details are genuinely surprising. Women's preference for resource acquisition — often misread as gold-digging — is actually a preference for behavioral indicators of potential: ambition, industriousness, intelligence, and the drive to figure things out. Money itself is a very recent invention; for most of human history, all a woman had to judge by was a man's behavior and attitude. Meanwhile, female preferences for physical protection (the 'bodyguard hypothesis' from Snyder et al. 2011) create an inherent dilemma — the most formidable men are also the most potentially dangerous. [1] — Mark Manson "Waist-to-hip ratio 0.7 cross-cultural: A 1993 cross-cultural study found that men worldwide consistently prefer a waist-to-hip ratio of app…" 42:45 On the male side, visual cues of youthfulness and fertility dominate because for most of human history there was no way to know a woman's age — only her physical appearance signaled reproductive viability. Men also show heightened sensitivity to sexual fidelity, which makes evolutionary sense given that a man can never be 100% certain of paternity. Drew adds fascinating research showing that men invest more resources in children who resemble them, and that mothers and maternal families are statistically more likely to tell fathers 'this baby looks just like you' when the father is present.
Studies suggest 3–10% of people were raised by a man who was not their biological father, a figure that may have been consistent throughout human history.
A 1993 cross-cultural study found that men worldwide consistently prefer a waist-to-hip ratio of approximately 0.7 in women, regardless of differences in preferred body size.
