Quote · On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lucy Kalanithi: What Loss Can Teach Us About Living (The Perspective Shift That Changes Everything)
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Can You Love Again?
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Jay asks whether Lucy was always this evolved or whether grief accelerated her. She credits medical school — which demanded she deploy every fiber of her intellectual and emotional capacity — and a painful episode of depression during residency as the two most formative experiences. She quotes Andrew Solomon: depression is not the opposite of happiness but the opposite of vitality. She then introduces Dan Gilbert's Harvard research on the end of history illusion — people at every age report having changed enormously in the past decade, but expect to barely change in the next, even though the data shows they always do. Jay recognizes himself in this: he thought he knew who he was 10 years ago, which is exactly the illusion. The insight: the self is always under construction.
Andrew Solomon's definition: depression is not the opposite of happiness but the opposite of vitality — a distinction Lucy Kalanithi found profound during her own episode of depression in residency.
