Susie Wolff (Managing Director of F1 Academy)

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Fact Check Sidebar: Tears, Crying and Monica's Friend Moving to France

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Monica's friend Elizabeth (and her husband Andy) are moving to Bordeaux for a year. Elizabeth came to say goodbye, arrived announcing she'd skipped mascara because she knew she'd cry, and at one point directly told Monica 'you better cry.' Monica didn't. Not even a well-up. She feels this is consistent with her pattern: she cries from anger, frustration or embarrassment — not from sadness. Dax connects with this precisely: the moment you become self-conscious about not crying is the moment crying becomes impossible. Acting teachers say the trick is to try not to cry. The conversation expands into Dax's own emotional regulation: going to the garage to process, resisting the 'what about me' impulse, and his therapist's definition of masculine strength as restraint rather than aggression.