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Why Nobody Feels Loved Anymore - Sonja Lyubomirsky - #1115
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The Importance of a Sharing Mindset
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Being known requires sharing beyond the highlight reel — gradually and with emotional intelligence. Curiosity from the other person is what makes sharing feel safe. [1] — Sonja Lyubomirsky "You can't feel loved by someone who doesn't know you. The sharing mindset means gradually revealing more of your real self — not just traum…" 19:24
You can't feel loved by someone who doesn't know you. The sharing mindset means gradually revealing more of your real self — not just trauma-dumping, but testing the water and showing what genuinely matters to you. The key is starting with curiosity, not a monologue.
People consistently overestimate how negatively others will react to their vulnerabilities. On average, vulnerability makes you more likeable. The pratfall effect, bombing a speech on stage, a gymnast's fear — people don't recoil from imperfection, they connect to it.
