Snapshot · The School of Greatness
After telling his mother and then his three sisters he loved them for the first time in decades, Gary John Bishop says the practice of saying 'I love you' spread through his family like wildfire.
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With the emotional gates now open, Bishop immediately called each of his three sisters — none of whom had heard him express love in decades. Their initial reaction was bewilderment: 'What the hell's going on with you? Who are you?' [1] — Gary John Bishop "After telling his mother he loved her for the first time in 28 years, Gary John Bishop called each of his three sisters. Some resisted, one…" 18:10 One sister accused him of taking their mother's side in a long-running family narrative about who the heroes and villains were. Another stopped answering his calls entirely. Bishop recalls tracking down a neighbour to pass a message through, eventually reaching his sister just to tell her: 'You have no say in whether I love you or not, and you're not allowed to fall out with me over this.' The episode closes with him describing how this practise of expressing love spread through the family 'like wildfire' — and then into his marriage, his children, and his work.
After telling his mother he loved her for the first time in 28 years, Gary John Bishop called each of his three sisters. Some resisted, one stopped answering his calls. He tracked down a neighbour to get a message through and told his sister: 'You have no say in whether I love you or not.' Eventually it spread. Saying 'I love you' became a regular occurrence in a family where it had been absent for decades.
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