Snapshot · Matt and Shane's Secret Podcast
Users in the Relay app report forming such an exclusive relationship with their hand that they are unable to achieve erection with a real partner, creating a shame cycle that drives them back to porn.
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At 31:53 · chapter starts 28:50
The conversation widens beyond porn-the-website to the pornographic mode of consuming the world. Matt relays his brother's observation: if you're sitting there mindlessly scrolling Instagram as the algorithm serves you bodies, you're in the same loop — a non-orgasmic goon. [1] — Matt McCusker "You don't have to be watching porn to be in porn brain. If you're mindlessly scrolling Instagram as the algorithm feeds you bodies, you're …" 20:33 Joe agrees and extends it: guys in modern 'be independent, be above it all' self-improvement movements are often completely unconscious about how pornographic their entire information diet is. Any time they see an attractive woman, the brain fires. The escalation dynamic comes up too — men who start with vanilla content and gradually drift toward more extreme material because the original material stops producing the same hit. And the Fleshlight-to-Oculus progression Matt names captures something real: at some point you're no longer using porn as a supplement to your life; you're having sex with yourself. That's a different thing. And it makes having sex with a real person, in a real relationship, with its imperfections and surprises, feel like a downgrade.
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