Moved 16 times growing up
Camila moved approximately 16 times during her childhood, which she says was deeply destabilizing but made her highly adaptable.
Snapshot · On Purpose with Jay Shetty
CAMILA MENDES: "Perfectionism Was Ruining My Life"
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Jul 27, 2026
Where this was said
Growing Up Without Stability
At 32:16 · chapter starts 31:11
Jay surfaces a striking biographical detail: Camila moved approximately 16 times growing up. She's grateful for the adaptability it built, but she covets what she never had — the house with height marks on the wall, the childhood home her parents still live in. Rudy has that. When they walk into his family home, she feels the history. She is determined to give her own kids something more stable, while also accepting she can't guarantee anything. The deeper realisation: for years she was obsessed with never repeating her parents' divorce, working impossibly hard on relationships to avoid failure. Her dad eventually told her she was fighting too hard — relationships are hard, but not *that* hard. Letting go of the idea that her relationship choices had to be perfect, accepting that divorce could happen and she'd still be okay, was genuinely liberating. She came out of it fine. Her parents came out of it fine. The trauma gave her skills.
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