Snapshot · Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra Solomon
Rather than labeling a breakup a 'mistake,' Dr. Solomon urges listeners to call it an FGO — an effing growth opportunity — to avoid shame and one-down positioning when approaching an ex.
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The word 'mistake' does three kinds of damage: it implies a right/wrong binary that intimate relationships are too complex to support; it assumes we should have possessed perfect foresight; and — most dangerously for reconciliation — it puts the person who made the so-called mistake in a crawling, shame-based posture before they've even reached out. Dr. Solomon is explicit that she welcomes contrition and accountability, but not groveling. [1] — Dr. Alexandra Solomon "Calling a breakup a 'mistake' puts you in a one-down position of shame before you even reach out to your ex. Replace it with FGO — effing g…" 10:20 Instead, she introduces FGO — effing growth opportunity — a term she holds 'near and dear,' and maps it onto Oprah's teaching that the universe sends small bricks before the whole wall comes down. The section closes on a generous vision: the breakup as the crisis that finally cracked a person open, giving them the self-awareness, humility, and perspective needed to try again from a stronger foundation.
Calling a breakup a 'mistake' puts you in a one-down position of shame before you even reach out to your ex. Replace it with FGO — effing growth opportunity — and suddenly the breakup becomes the catalyst for growth that earned you the right to try again.
Oprah's teaching that the universe first sends small 'bricks upside the head' before sending the whole brick wall is used to explain why a breakup becomes the crisis that finally forces growth.
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