Snapshot · Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra Solomon
Dr. Solomon invokes the aphorism that doing the same thing and expecting different results is insanity as the core challenge anyone faces when considering getting back with an ex.
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After the depth of the grief section, Question 4 is deliberately generative: it asks what has been gained, not what has been lost. Dr. Solomon opens with her signature maxim — love does not leave us where it finds us — and uses it to frame time apart not as a void but as a period of growth that can be examined and named. [1] — Dr. Alexandra Solomon "Love does not leave us where it finds us — we are changed by the experience of loving and being loved. The key question before reconciling …" 33:00 Concrete examples include setting better boundaries, knowing when to speak up, developing more self-compassion, becoming more realistic and less idealistic, and building routines and rituals that support personal wellbeing. The implicit message: if you can't answer this question with specifics, you may not yet be ready to try again.
Love does not leave us where it finds us — we are changed by the experience of loving and being loved. The key question before reconciling is not 'do I still have feelings?' but 'how have I actually changed?' Concrete evidence of growth is what separates a real version 2.0 from a replay of version 1.0.
When people think about what will be different this time, they almost always default to listing what their ex needs to change. Dr. Solomon closes that exit door: the only behaviors you can control are your own. Naming what you're committed to stopping — not what your ex should stop — is where real change starts.
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